I am a custodian of my mind and body
We all are What you choose to do with your mind and body, Has bearings upon the world What we choose to do with our mind and body and wealth and other resources, at our command, Has bearings upon the world Cause of ripple effects that traverse the globe So let's all take an oath to be careful and responsible and conscious of what we do with all the resources at our command, Viz, Mind, body, time, money, talents, knowledge, skills, intelligence and abilities. We are all but divine custodians and stewards, Nothing really belongs to us upon this earth except by the limited time period virtue of stewardship. So it's upto us If we make our free will to be a beautiful thing Or a subject or an experiment of worldwide programming - of the likes of Netflix, fast life, toxic love, substance abuse and / or chemical consumption. Let our creativity make full utilization of our true potential for the highest good of all sentient beings ! Let's bring this world from darkness to light ! Let's not be the hidden collective cause and funder for violence ! Let's strive to understand the occult cause and hidden nature of everything, No matter how difficult and challenging it is ! Let's crack this and be the bringers of dawn !
- A N U J C H U G H
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Sunday, October 14, 2018
I am a custodian of my mind and body !
Monday, March 12, 2018
On business, money, work, spirituality, life states, end-all, Good Vs. Evil and basically every nits and grits of the Human life ...
What I am trying to do here is to -
Running my business in a conscious, soulful way so that in my quest for money, I don't miss out on life. The thing is money making will be slow here in this case, but will be very well integrated into my life so that I get to do things I really want to do in life and also schedule my client visits and demos.
Or you can even say it's also about running a business for a lazy, laid back person who would find the way to do things out, the easy way. The right way to do things would be sometimes easy but sometimes difficult. In our quest for finding the ease of doing things and money without discomfort, there will always will be hard learnings and hard days.
In the inner life of people - People wonder, everyone always wonder if it is all worth it when you only have to die - the answer is always 'no' and everyone knows it - that is the dark aspect of human life or constant darkness, you can say but on other days it is also worth it - those are the lighter shades of life or the light aspect.
The quest is to manage and balance the duality between the two. The darkness is always gonna be there, repeat in some form or the other and the corresponding light, they alternate, these patterns alternate - you can't escape it. However much you gonna try, life is ceaseless flow that never comes to a state of conclusion.
Life takes endless turns for better and worse at the same time.
That's something that nothing / nobody can change for me, it was there since my birth and it shall remain till my death (and everyone else). Nobody can change that. Not even God.
That's the sukh-dukh cycle of life. The happiness - sadness / sorrow cycle of life.
It is important to know that the form or the cause and the way never remains the same - that is, in what form you experience this happiness or sadness, the cause that caused and causes your happiness or sadness and the way you experienced it, that is your happiness or sadness. It is a never ending ceaseless flow never coming to a state of conclusion.
That is life - either be happy about it or lament it. If that is the way things are and things shall ever be then why choose to lament it ?? When we can choose to be happy about all the while ? That is what centering oneself means, that is being in a state of equilibrium, or the state of no conclusion. If you are happy, that is not your permanent state. If you are sad, even that is not your permanent state. If you have a cause to be happy, that's great. But if you can be happy for no reason, that will be super great.
Coming back to money, business, work or a job that you might have - the topic that I started this post with. It all ends with your death, how much ever you accumulate, and it is universal for all - Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, or Carlos Slim Helu or Koch Brothers. The element of Death is universal and common to all. Rich men are no exception ! Men / Women of other nationalities are no exceptions !
You will not reach a state of conclusion how much ever you try, life does not reach and never reaches a state of conclusion. So you can only be happy, so you can only choose to be happy about the Ebb and Flow of the tide.
Or you can strive to achieve a fierce level of independence making your existence absolutely independent of anybody, anything or any event occuring. And if you have already achieved that, then you can strengthen that state by striving to create your happiness in a state of equilibrium.
So now you are independent with your work, money, able to fulfill your needs and your life goals, with a deepened sense and state of happiness irrespective of anybody, any event or any other thing. That's the most important goal to strive for in your life, all the while safeguarding yourself from the evils of life caused by dependence on somebody's actions or dependence on somebody's part for some / any reason or some / any need.
Whatever you want, you simply take it or get it for yourself without anybody's help (assistance) whatsoever. Now that's an amazing life state. But still it won't last long on its own. It takes a lot of psychological (mental), emotional and spiritual mastery on a daily basis to maintain this kinda life-state and lifestyle.
And forgiveness is a spiritual fad, to all those who preach forgiveness - I will get a person to rape you, rob you, mob you, assault you and thug you and then ask you to forgive him !
It simply does not work that way !
Exacting your revenge is also the purpose of your life, of every life (self-preservation). Though you can forgive someone for minor things like showing up late or other things in which you were not harmed, or caused deep grievance / harassment. An eye for an eye may make the whole world blind but it does brings one, a deep satisfaction :)
Also, if we gotta fight anyways, then why not fight the evil that is occurring on our planet by usury, debt slavery, war mongering, media propaganda, truth manipulation, bombing children in Syria over oil resources and the like ?
Most of how and what life is and learning how to live is based on learning how to die ?
Live with such fierceness, such awesomeness, such conscience, such consciousness and great fire, that you have no regrets, no guilt on your deathbed.
Do everything that's supposed to be done, do everything that ought to be done, be everything, be all that you can be and live life with full force, full grace. Live with flow, live with authenticity !
Live with ferocity - No respect and No special place for people with great beauty, fame, wealth, position, power, status or possessions, for they are mere mortals with chances of death and potential for death at a second's notice. No good can come from them, they are in as deep shit as you !
The world is a nasty place because special preferences and special treatment has been given to such people by it's various sycophants. There was no reason to treat anyone specially. In this game of life, all are doomed, sooner or later. And the people with more possessions and wealth are doomed more, for they have too much to lose. You can only pity them for their attachments are more and the evil situations resulting from them. And what unbelievable assholes they can be, and to what extent they can go to protect all that that they can lose.
The fight of a person who is fighting for his / her life will always be greater than the person fighting for mere possessions. A person with a self-preservation drive fights for survival whereas the other fights for only greed, ambition, and sport.
Adding another billion does not make any difference, much of a difference to men / women already worth billions. Their enthusiasm for exploring and experiencing life in its various colours and its various shades is long gone, dead.
Rich people only have more money. Their lives are dead, long dead with nothing left to really conquer that they have not conquered before, with nothing left to really explore that they have not explored before and with nothing left to really experience that they have not experienced before. That's all, that's about it !
That's what they are so reduce and erase their weightage from your feeble minds if you would aim to work with synergy of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual resources and channelize and steer them in the right direction of your choice.
The world needs more real commentaries, the world needs more genuine commentaries, the world needs more genuine coverage on the real states and conditions of life by sincere, dedicated, honest and fearless truth seekers with endless quest for knowledge.
For life is a mere mortal coil, waiting to expend. When the world only shows us its endless toil. It's about time to show it our endless compassion for the struggling souls still striving for the light of knowledge.
Let us all clear the way and pave the way for all by sharing in howsoever little we know, howsoever little we have.
Let's try our best to stop the evils of this cruel little mean world and the burdens it brings as all beings struggle to make their way through its thorns and thistles.
The next evolution of mankind, the next evolution of mankind's soul can only happen and occur through the light of (spiritual) knowledge and it will occur well within our lifetimes.
The illusion of 'choice' is the 'illusion' 'created' by the illusion of having 'right' knowledge which is nothing but mere propaganda.
Ignore spiritual knowledge and the world and its masses are just like 'sheep' going around to be 'prodded' by the slaughterer.
In the ignorance of your soul, in the ignorance of your spiritual nature, in the ignorance of spiritual knowledge, in the ignorance of spiritual realities of life, lies the potential for all evils, crimes and nastiness of life.
If one does not allow his / her life to be run by his / her moral compass and the light of his / her spiritual inner truth and beauty, then one is doomed and cannot blame the other for his / her illness or any other evils of their life.
I want the whole world to come to this conclusion and the light of wisdom to dawn from within just as the flower blooms naturally.
Truly rich is the person who has integrated his / her mental, physical and emotional self with the spiritual one and the person is hence, said to have arrived at 'closeness' or 'oneness' with God or (and hence,) mastery over life.
And lastly, it is openness to learn and the quest for all 'knowledge', whether material or spiritual in this ever evolving game and fight of Good Vs Evil.
Life feels like I don't have the strength to carry on any further,
Yet I am carrying on !!
Life is such that you cannot stay in depression for a long time, otherwise health problems will start. You have to be grateful to the Creator for what you have got. You have to be grateful to the Creator for what He has given you. Comparison is useless.
Running my business in a conscious, soulful way so that in my quest for money, I don't miss out on life. The thing is money making will be slow here in this case, but will be very well integrated into my life so that I get to do things I really want to do in life and also schedule my client visits and demos.
Or you can even say it's also about running a business for a lazy, laid back person who would find the way to do things out, the easy way. The right way to do things would be sometimes easy but sometimes difficult. In our quest for finding the ease of doing things and money without discomfort, there will always will be hard learnings and hard days.
In the inner life of people - People wonder, everyone always wonder if it is all worth it when you only have to die - the answer is always 'no' and everyone knows it - that is the dark aspect of human life or constant darkness, you can say but on other days it is also worth it - those are the lighter shades of life or the light aspect.
The quest is to manage and balance the duality between the two. The darkness is always gonna be there, repeat in some form or the other and the corresponding light, they alternate, these patterns alternate - you can't escape it. However much you gonna try, life is ceaseless flow that never comes to a state of conclusion.
Life takes endless turns for better and worse at the same time.
That's something that nothing / nobody can change for me, it was there since my birth and it shall remain till my death (and everyone else). Nobody can change that. Not even God.
That's the sukh-dukh cycle of life. The happiness - sadness / sorrow cycle of life.
It is important to know that the form or the cause and the way never remains the same - that is, in what form you experience this happiness or sadness, the cause that caused and causes your happiness or sadness and the way you experienced it, that is your happiness or sadness. It is a never ending ceaseless flow never coming to a state of conclusion.
That is life - either be happy about it or lament it. If that is the way things are and things shall ever be then why choose to lament it ?? When we can choose to be happy about all the while ? That is what centering oneself means, that is being in a state of equilibrium, or the state of no conclusion. If you are happy, that is not your permanent state. If you are sad, even that is not your permanent state. If you have a cause to be happy, that's great. But if you can be happy for no reason, that will be super great.
Coming back to money, business, work or a job that you might have - the topic that I started this post with. It all ends with your death, how much ever you accumulate, and it is universal for all - Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, or Carlos Slim Helu or Koch Brothers. The element of Death is universal and common to all. Rich men are no exception ! Men / Women of other nationalities are no exceptions !
You will not reach a state of conclusion how much ever you try, life does not reach and never reaches a state of conclusion. So you can only be happy, so you can only choose to be happy about the Ebb and Flow of the tide.
Or you can strive to achieve a fierce level of independence making your existence absolutely independent of anybody, anything or any event occuring. And if you have already achieved that, then you can strengthen that state by striving to create your happiness in a state of equilibrium.
So now you are independent with your work, money, able to fulfill your needs and your life goals, with a deepened sense and state of happiness irrespective of anybody, any event or any other thing. That's the most important goal to strive for in your life, all the while safeguarding yourself from the evils of life caused by dependence on somebody's actions or dependence on somebody's part for some / any reason or some / any need.
Whatever you want, you simply take it or get it for yourself without anybody's help (assistance) whatsoever. Now that's an amazing life state. But still it won't last long on its own. It takes a lot of psychological (mental), emotional and spiritual mastery on a daily basis to maintain this kinda life-state and lifestyle.
And forgiveness is a spiritual fad, to all those who preach forgiveness - I will get a person to rape you, rob you, mob you, assault you and thug you and then ask you to forgive him !
It simply does not work that way !
Exacting your revenge is also the purpose of your life, of every life (self-preservation). Though you can forgive someone for minor things like showing up late or other things in which you were not harmed, or caused deep grievance / harassment. An eye for an eye may make the whole world blind but it does brings one, a deep satisfaction :)
Also, if we gotta fight anyways, then why not fight the evil that is occurring on our planet by usury, debt slavery, war mongering, media propaganda, truth manipulation, bombing children in Syria over oil resources and the like ?
Most of how and what life is and learning how to live is based on learning how to die ?
Live with such fierceness, such awesomeness, such conscience, such consciousness and great fire, that you have no regrets, no guilt on your deathbed.
Do everything that's supposed to be done, do everything that ought to be done, be everything, be all that you can be and live life with full force, full grace. Live with flow, live with authenticity !
Live with ferocity - No respect and No special place for people with great beauty, fame, wealth, position, power, status or possessions, for they are mere mortals with chances of death and potential for death at a second's notice. No good can come from them, they are in as deep shit as you !
The world is a nasty place because special preferences and special treatment has been given to such people by it's various sycophants. There was no reason to treat anyone specially. In this game of life, all are doomed, sooner or later. And the people with more possessions and wealth are doomed more, for they have too much to lose. You can only pity them for their attachments are more and the evil situations resulting from them. And what unbelievable assholes they can be, and to what extent they can go to protect all that that they can lose.
The fight of a person who is fighting for his / her life will always be greater than the person fighting for mere possessions. A person with a self-preservation drive fights for survival whereas the other fights for only greed, ambition, and sport.
Adding another billion does not make any difference, much of a difference to men / women already worth billions. Their enthusiasm for exploring and experiencing life in its various colours and its various shades is long gone, dead.
Rich people only have more money. Their lives are dead, long dead with nothing left to really conquer that they have not conquered before, with nothing left to really explore that they have not explored before and with nothing left to really experience that they have not experienced before. That's all, that's about it !
That's what they are so reduce and erase their weightage from your feeble minds if you would aim to work with synergy of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual resources and channelize and steer them in the right direction of your choice.
The world needs more real commentaries, the world needs more genuine commentaries, the world needs more genuine coverage on the real states and conditions of life by sincere, dedicated, honest and fearless truth seekers with endless quest for knowledge.
For life is a mere mortal coil, waiting to expend. When the world only shows us its endless toil. It's about time to show it our endless compassion for the struggling souls still striving for the light of knowledge.
Let us all clear the way and pave the way for all by sharing in howsoever little we know, howsoever little we have.
Let's try our best to stop the evils of this cruel little mean world and the burdens it brings as all beings struggle to make their way through its thorns and thistles.
The next evolution of mankind, the next evolution of mankind's soul can only happen and occur through the light of (spiritual) knowledge and it will occur well within our lifetimes.
The illusion of 'choice' is the 'illusion' 'created' by the illusion of having 'right' knowledge which is nothing but mere propaganda.
Ignore spiritual knowledge and the world and its masses are just like 'sheep' going around to be 'prodded' by the slaughterer.
In the ignorance of your soul, in the ignorance of your spiritual nature, in the ignorance of spiritual knowledge, in the ignorance of spiritual realities of life, lies the potential for all evils, crimes and nastiness of life.
If one does not allow his / her life to be run by his / her moral compass and the light of his / her spiritual inner truth and beauty, then one is doomed and cannot blame the other for his / her illness or any other evils of their life.
I want the whole world to come to this conclusion and the light of wisdom to dawn from within just as the flower blooms naturally.
Truly rich is the person who has integrated his / her mental, physical and emotional self with the spiritual one and the person is hence, said to have arrived at 'closeness' or 'oneness' with God or (and hence,) mastery over life.
And lastly, it is openness to learn and the quest for all 'knowledge', whether material or spiritual in this ever evolving game and fight of Good Vs Evil.
Life feels like I don't have the strength to carry on any further,
Yet I am carrying on !!
Life is such that you cannot stay in depression for a long time, otherwise health problems will start. You have to be grateful to the Creator for what you have got. You have to be grateful to the Creator for what He has given you. Comparison is useless.
- A N U J C H U G H
Monday, January 16, 2017
The 'fearful' habit and disease of being a failure !
You can't live in the past and make a better tomorrow. Also you cannot day dream about your better tomorrow and fulfill it.
You have to stay in the present and work towards it. If you can take care of your present, your present will take care of your morrow.
You can make provisions and plan for all contingencies. In fact not worrying about the future does not absolve you from your duty of doing all that.
And also, not worrying about the past, does not absolve you from learning it's lessons, maturing and growing from its costly hard-won rich experiences.
Even if you have made the same mistake several times and you have been hurt many times, it does you no good to pity or belittle yourself.
In fact, all it teaches you to find love here and now by loving what you currently do, i.e. what you are always doing on a daily basis, what you do every moment and who you happen to be with or find yourself around, to that effect.
Always remember success is taken as a serious business. There is neither any provision nor any excuse for failure. But however, all this have to be created and built on the foundations of love. For only those will last.
Most people are working with a fearful energy. So if you are fearless, you already have an edge above and over many people.
Fearful people live in their self created shell of limitations. They don't even try. They accept their life's circumstances as given/absolutes. Worst thing is that, in some cases they can't even comprehend that these limitations are self - created and not otherwise imposed upon them. They have conditioned themselves to be so.
They always come up with an argument or a justification against themselves.
So the point is - You have to programme yourself for success lest you develop a disease/habit of being a failure.
If you aren't going to fight for what you want, nobody's going to give it to you !
You have to stay in the present and work towards it. If you can take care of your present, your present will take care of your morrow.
You can make provisions and plan for all contingencies. In fact not worrying about the future does not absolve you from your duty of doing all that.
And also, not worrying about the past, does not absolve you from learning it's lessons, maturing and growing from its costly hard-won rich experiences.
Even if you have made the same mistake several times and you have been hurt many times, it does you no good to pity or belittle yourself.
In fact, all it teaches you to find love here and now by loving what you currently do, i.e. what you are always doing on a daily basis, what you do every moment and who you happen to be with or find yourself around, to that effect.
Always remember success is taken as a serious business. There is neither any provision nor any excuse for failure. But however, all this have to be created and built on the foundations of love. For only those will last.
Most people are working with a fearful energy. So if you are fearless, you already have an edge above and over many people.
Fearful people live in their self created shell of limitations. They don't even try. They accept their life's circumstances as given/absolutes. Worst thing is that, in some cases they can't even comprehend that these limitations are self - created and not otherwise imposed upon them. They have conditioned themselves to be so.
They always come up with an argument or a justification against themselves.
So the point is - You have to programme yourself for success lest you develop a disease/habit of being a failure.
If you aren't going to fight for what you want, nobody's going to give it to you !
- A N U J C H U G H
Sunday, January 8, 2017
The true extent of psychological damage after break up....
If you are loved, you will feel loved,
If you are respected, you will feel respected,
If you are cared for, you will feel cared for,
You don't need anyone to tell you how to feel your feelings
If anybody is trying to tell you otherwise, they are only manipulating you,
Your feelings never lie
For eg :- showing you 'no, this is the way how you should be loved, how things should be, etc' , 'I never meant it that way' (everything is always meant 'that way'), 'no you should be feeling good, whatever I am doing is for your good' (focus on the word being used - 'your' instead of our)....
Be smart enough and catch these ques early on in your relationships before they cause any further damage. The best thing to note, and observe is always your feeling. As I said, 'your feelings never lie....' Unless you are in a relationship for any selfish, ulterior motive, you will always be able to catch your feelings when they are turning turning negative about the other person ... Call it quits before it is too late ... Before you are emotionally and mentally damaged ... Believe me, that mental / emotional damage takes a long time to heal and a whole lot of positive reinforcements in the form of conscious choices / decisions later to get undo and get rid of the damage done.... I am a living example of that.... I wasted two years mentally / emotionally handicapped not being able to date and always getting into abusive positions / relations with the girls.... It got so worse that I even got addicted to the torture.... Being treated like a dog seemed like the 'new normal'... I stopped growing during those two years... The cycle and the vicious circle would never stop.... And nobody came to my rescue.... I was always out their fighting and trying to fend for myself as best as my awareness would allow.... But always falling short.... It was a ridiculous turn my life had taken.... It was the most fucked up two years I ever could live.... I used to collect all the scraps and broken pieces of my life and salvage as best as I could as best as I should.... Though my finances were good, but I was a beggar for other people's attention, for other people's support,.... It was not that.... During those two years 'I was expecting someday an angel would fly to me' (meet me by chance and make me fall in love all over again and this time giving me all the love that I deserved) .... Though some thoughts / hopes would let me to survive my day during those times .... It was actually even worse, I constantly imagined the girl would come back to me ... call me, SMS me, email me, unblock me, on fb / whatsapp and try to contact me again.... somedays I would want to kill that girl.... Somedays I would just cry in pain helplessly.... What more was that, I was cut out from the outside world, I was isolated.... Being an introverted personality in the past seem to have worked against me.... How could I have foreseen this in the past and could have made more friends ?.... All my heart, all my trust I had wrongly placed in one basket.... At the wrong time, in the wrong situations.... What more could I do ? I was being loved and reciprocated for the first time ever in my life.... After having gone through the pain of many one-sided loves / crushes before .... I 'thought' this love was eagerly awaited and eagerly deserved.... Worse than that, I thought it was the 'right' kind of love.... A healthy 'ideal' relationship.... so I put all my effort into it.... I gave it all I could.... Whatever it took, I could, whatever I should and even whatever I couldn't.... I really stretched myself for her at times.... Like a rubber band ! ..... For I never had the slightest clue that I was about to be betrayed....
Despite all the love, effort, money, energy, She left me for dead.... That was the best she could do....
Mentally and emotionally handicapped and socially unfit and isolated because of my introvertedness, it was also difficult for me to find and transition to a better girl....
I would just 'imagine' things to be 'perfect' and get into abusive positions with certain girls.... They would suck my already dry soul out.... Accelerated by the kind of ignoring they do to you on whatsapp / facebook these days.... Messages would be seen and never replied to.... Or worse, messages never seen at all....
But you know what I survived these two years and now that I am sorted, there's no looking back
Always Note : If they really cared for you, they would make you feel cared for and never give excuses. And If they are honest and truthful, they will outright reject and then pls don't try to pursue them anymore. Please don't be under the fallacy that things would change that if you keep trying or keep showing your love, they would eventually agree to date you / Fall for you.... No it's never happening, pls don't even think about it. Pls don't even wait for a moment, there are no angels on the way, coming to your rescue....
The pain of unreciprocated / one sided loves and crushes for almost 10 yrs and then I had to go through this and the resultant 2 years of mental psychological social and emotional handicap.... All due to my delusions, fallacies, beliefs and certain assumptions ....
Complete misinterpretation of 'Never give up' attitude....
But through my hard work, experience and time, I have become better, I now give up on a girl on the very first instance of a so-called 'mistake', which isn't so, but a sign of sabotage, game, betrayal, ulterior motives.... Of course, I give a careful hearing and still care enough to verify all the facts myself.... Before I make a 'yes' or 'on' decision.... If slightest benefit of doubt, she is always forgiven.... Otherwise, not....
- A N U J C H U G H
If you are respected, you will feel respected,
If you are cared for, you will feel cared for,
You don't need anyone to tell you how to feel your feelings
If anybody is trying to tell you otherwise, they are only manipulating you,
Your feelings never lie
For eg :- showing you 'no, this is the way how you should be loved, how things should be, etc' , 'I never meant it that way' (everything is always meant 'that way'), 'no you should be feeling good, whatever I am doing is for your good' (focus on the word being used - 'your' instead of our)....
Be smart enough and catch these ques early on in your relationships before they cause any further damage. The best thing to note, and observe is always your feeling. As I said, 'your feelings never lie....' Unless you are in a relationship for any selfish, ulterior motive, you will always be able to catch your feelings when they are turning turning negative about the other person ... Call it quits before it is too late ... Before you are emotionally and mentally damaged ... Believe me, that mental / emotional damage takes a long time to heal and a whole lot of positive reinforcements in the form of conscious choices / decisions later to get undo and get rid of the damage done.... I am a living example of that.... I wasted two years mentally / emotionally handicapped not being able to date and always getting into abusive positions / relations with the girls.... It got so worse that I even got addicted to the torture.... Being treated like a dog seemed like the 'new normal'... I stopped growing during those two years... The cycle and the vicious circle would never stop.... And nobody came to my rescue.... I was always out their fighting and trying to fend for myself as best as my awareness would allow.... But always falling short.... It was a ridiculous turn my life had taken.... It was the most fucked up two years I ever could live.... I used to collect all the scraps and broken pieces of my life and salvage as best as I could as best as I should.... Though my finances were good, but I was a beggar for other people's attention, for other people's support,.... It was not that.... During those two years 'I was expecting someday an angel would fly to me' (meet me by chance and make me fall in love all over again and this time giving me all the love that I deserved) .... Though some thoughts / hopes would let me to survive my day during those times .... It was actually even worse, I constantly imagined the girl would come back to me ... call me, SMS me, email me, unblock me, on fb / whatsapp and try to contact me again.... somedays I would want to kill that girl.... Somedays I would just cry in pain helplessly.... What more was that, I was cut out from the outside world, I was isolated.... Being an introverted personality in the past seem to have worked against me.... How could I have foreseen this in the past and could have made more friends ?.... All my heart, all my trust I had wrongly placed in one basket.... At the wrong time, in the wrong situations.... What more could I do ? I was being loved and reciprocated for the first time ever in my life.... After having gone through the pain of many one-sided loves / crushes before .... I 'thought' this love was eagerly awaited and eagerly deserved.... Worse than that, I thought it was the 'right' kind of love.... A healthy 'ideal' relationship.... so I put all my effort into it.... I gave it all I could.... Whatever it took, I could, whatever I should and even whatever I couldn't.... I really stretched myself for her at times.... Like a rubber band ! ..... For I never had the slightest clue that I was about to be betrayed....
Despite all the love, effort, money, energy, She left me for dead.... That was the best she could do....
Mentally and emotionally handicapped and socially unfit and isolated because of my introvertedness, it was also difficult for me to find and transition to a better girl....
I would just 'imagine' things to be 'perfect' and get into abusive positions with certain girls.... They would suck my already dry soul out.... Accelerated by the kind of ignoring they do to you on whatsapp / facebook these days.... Messages would be seen and never replied to.... Or worse, messages never seen at all....
But you know what I survived these two years and now that I am sorted, there's no looking back
Always Note : If they really cared for you, they would make you feel cared for and never give excuses. And If they are honest and truthful, they will outright reject and then pls don't try to pursue them anymore. Please don't be under the fallacy that things would change that if you keep trying or keep showing your love, they would eventually agree to date you / Fall for you.... No it's never happening, pls don't even think about it. Pls don't even wait for a moment, there are no angels on the way, coming to your rescue....
The pain of unreciprocated / one sided loves and crushes for almost 10 yrs and then I had to go through this and the resultant 2 years of mental psychological social and emotional handicap.... All due to my delusions, fallacies, beliefs and certain assumptions ....
Complete misinterpretation of 'Never give up' attitude....
But through my hard work, experience and time, I have become better, I now give up on a girl on the very first instance of a so-called 'mistake', which isn't so, but a sign of sabotage, game, betrayal, ulterior motives.... Of course, I give a careful hearing and still care enough to verify all the facts myself.... Before I make a 'yes' or 'on' decision.... If slightest benefit of doubt, she is always forgiven.... Otherwise, not....
- A N U J C H U G H
Monday, January 2, 2017
Your life is pretty 'Fucked up' when
Your life is pretty 'Fucked up' when :-
1. If you complain too much.
No need to complain. You still have to face what you have to face.
2. If you cry for every small reason.
There's no reason too big enough to shed your most expensive tears.
3. If you are too scared to face the world.
If that's so, then you won't be even able to get off your bed.
4. If you don't understand the true meaning of life.
The meaning of life is a life of meaning. You create meaning by keeping yourself occupied in what's meaningful to you. Even if it has an iota of meaning.
5. If you keep distance from loved ones for petty reasons.
There's no reason big enough to keep distance while they are alive or you are alive ...
6. If you hold doubts on every other person or thing.
You can hold doubts but always remember that ultimately, faith is the twin brother of doubt.
7. If you think night life is the only life.
Live the night life under immense control and self-restraint.
8. If you are lost in your addictions.
You are doomed and your addictions will kill you soon. There are no such things as 'safe addictions'. Always Remember, 'everything in moderation' and even 'too much of a good thing is harmful'
9. If your idea of spending a weekoff is sleeping on a couch and watching TV
Life is much more than that. Read something. Expand your horizons. More opportunities will come your way.
10. If you don't have anything to do but work.
Work is good but not to the extent of a burnout. Rest all is fine. Being a workaholic is also fine.
11. If you think you are a loser and can't achieve anything in life.
Then you are already gone. You should as well try and commit suicide.
12. If you are too afraid to confront and accept your mistakes.
The sooner you accept and confront, sooner the miracles take place. Life is magic.
13. If you don't know how to enjoy small things.
Small things are the things you would mostly end up and spend time doing in your life.
14. If you think your life sucks.
Your life never sucks. Its all and its always temporary.
15. If you are blind-folded by superstitions.
Superstitions can even kill you !
16. If you don't respect yourself or anybody else around you.
First learn to respect yourself. Then respect others contributions.
17. If you have problems trusting others.
You should at least learn to trust others under reasonable circumstances.
18. If you easily give up.
You shouldn't give up. If its yours, its yours for the taking and keeping. So fight !
19. If you don't have any ambition.
You always need ambitions in life. In any given point of time.
Then your life is seriously and completely 'Fucked up' :) =D :P
It is not meant to be so. You can change it through conscious control. You can shape your destiny.
Your destiny is in your hands.
- A N U J C H U G H
1. If you complain too much.
No need to complain. You still have to face what you have to face.
2. If you cry for every small reason.
There's no reason too big enough to shed your most expensive tears.
3. If you are too scared to face the world.
If that's so, then you won't be even able to get off your bed.
4. If you don't understand the true meaning of life.
The meaning of life is a life of meaning. You create meaning by keeping yourself occupied in what's meaningful to you. Even if it has an iota of meaning.
5. If you keep distance from loved ones for petty reasons.
There's no reason big enough to keep distance while they are alive or you are alive ...
6. If you hold doubts on every other person or thing.
You can hold doubts but always remember that ultimately, faith is the twin brother of doubt.
7. If you think night life is the only life.
Live the night life under immense control and self-restraint.
8. If you are lost in your addictions.
You are doomed and your addictions will kill you soon. There are no such things as 'safe addictions'. Always Remember, 'everything in moderation' and even 'too much of a good thing is harmful'
9. If your idea of spending a weekoff is sleeping on a couch and watching TV
Life is much more than that. Read something. Expand your horizons. More opportunities will come your way.
10. If you don't have anything to do but work.
Work is good but not to the extent of a burnout. Rest all is fine. Being a workaholic is also fine.
11. If you think you are a loser and can't achieve anything in life.
Then you are already gone. You should as well try and commit suicide.
12. If you are too afraid to confront and accept your mistakes.
The sooner you accept and confront, sooner the miracles take place. Life is magic.
13. If you don't know how to enjoy small things.
Small things are the things you would mostly end up and spend time doing in your life.
14. If you think your life sucks.
Your life never sucks. Its all and its always temporary.
15. If you are blind-folded by superstitions.
Superstitions can even kill you !
16. If you don't respect yourself or anybody else around you.
First learn to respect yourself. Then respect others contributions.
17. If you have problems trusting others.
You should at least learn to trust others under reasonable circumstances.
18. If you easily give up.
You shouldn't give up. If its yours, its yours for the taking and keeping. So fight !
19. If you don't have any ambition.
You always need ambitions in life. In any given point of time.
Then your life is seriously and completely 'Fucked up' :) =D :P
It is not meant to be so. You can change it through conscious control. You can shape your destiny.
Your destiny is in your hands.
- A N U J C H U G H
Our jobs are all about making complicated things simple !
Our jobs are all about making complicated things simple !
Life skills, decision making skills, problem solving skills, job skills and business skills are all about making complex things simple.
A person who can't do this even to a certain minimum extent, will basically not be needed anymore as people would rather do away with him / her.
To close this, Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, "I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but i would give my right arm for the simplicity on the far side of complexity."
So life and work are all about making complex things simpler....and what more, 'you even get rewarded / paid for it' 
A N U J C H U G H :
Three Cardinal Rules for Life
Three Cardinal Rules for Life :
Rule #1 Life is a Fight
Rule #2 If you can read this, you are already a survivor in the game of life. No matter what your age, you have survived until this very moment. There's no doubt Life tried to kill you! Maybe not one but several times. Forget every negative thing, slam doors of steel and start from a clean slate. Remember your most cherished dreams, hopes and wishes. Start working towards them afresh. Start Anew. Start all that you had left behind when your heart was broken, when your hopes got shattered.
Rule #3 Never forget Rule #1
If you can do this, then nothing like it.
You will Succeed.
No matter what.
There's no one who can steal your dreams, but you - by not acting.
That is why it is said that you are your own worst enemy!
A N U J C H U G H
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